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About six months ago, I decided to put myself through a romance detox. That has now ended, albeit a few weeks later than anticipated. I actually forgot the date I started this lark. Now I realise it served little purpose (I’ll get to those in a minute, the little purposes it did serve), and well, it just seems it was a frivolous endeavour to embark on in the first place.
However, I did learn one or two things, and confirmed a few other things.
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You know that little drilling sound when you get a new smartphone and press the screen? Every press and tap you make responds with a little vibration. It’s called haptic feedback. Press, buzz … press, buzz … Until it drives you mad and you turn off the function (term used very loosely). Does anyone know what it’s for, before having to check it out online?
Life’s been a bit like that for me lately. Every action I take is mirrored by some type of feedback that’s well annoying! But unlike with the smartphone, you can’t switch this off.
Or can you?
Recently, while nuking myself with the standard morning rocket fuel (coffee), I came across this rather lovely piece of wisdom by a gentleman called James Baldwin. I’ll wait while you read. You can read it again, if you like.
A bit over a month ago, I decided to put myself through a self-proclaimed romance detox. Problem is, I made the amateur mistake of not making a list of what that included and excluded. Ha! Yes, what to steer clear of, etc. Seems obvious, right? One item on list, then:
Anyway, seems that this is difficult to do, unless you’re a devout nun in the northern reaches of Siberia. Which, of course, I’m not.
It’s obviously not quite this simple and there are always things to keep in mind. The platonic factor is one, random people in the public domain, colleagues and work circumstances, the few blokes I share genetic material with and so forth.
They say that the mouth speaks what the heart is full of. But I’m not so sure that’s always the case. Personally, I’ve had a few thoughts stuck in my head and even my heart … (A thought stuck in the heart!) And I’ve been at loathe to share them because once something is out of your mouth, it’s out of your control and could have effects that are not beneficial to those they are intended for, despite your best intentions. So, some things need to be considered really well before they’re said, or not.
To this end, I read upon his handy formula. I’ve read it before, and it’s quite likely that you have too, but think it’s worth a post today. Perhaps it will help me too with these things I am keeping close to me.